If teens are 16 and dating, they should be able to drive and pick up their dates.It is not so much a concern as it is that this idea of kids dating as has been perpetuated via media.First, the definition of dating is different these days than it was when you and your husband were younger.In the past, a young man, usually a teenage boy, would come to a teenage girl's house and take her on an actual date which might include something like a movie AND a curfew. Middle schoolers sometimes say they are dating when actually all they are doing is texting or even communicating via Facebook or in some other electronic manner.As we all know, relationships and healthy dating take a lot of practice and trial and error. Televised media helped to promote this idea that kids are supposed to have boyfriend/girlfriends and are supposed to be dating. Naturally as kids view movies, shows, read books and all they will think that this is the "norm" and it is up to the parents to tell them that when in school, they have no business dating. Naturally, teenagers get more romantic feelings for people. Middle school and high school are the times where teens can experiment with relationships.Make sure to act interested but not too interested in your teen's dating life with the hope that they will open up to you if they run into difficulties. Friends are marginally ok but not romance of any sort. If they don't experiment, they won't know how a relationship works in the real world.
At a young age, it can also be important for parents to meet the person their child wants to date.And, you must make it clear what your rules and expectations are other than age. Whether or Not They Are Permitted to Drive With The Date 4. Keeping You Informed About Their Whereabouts & Changes in Plans Having said all of the above I must tell you that I think that dating serves a very important purpose.You and your husband need to address the following: 1. Teens learn to negotiate their feelings and relationships while they are still young and under your roof. See my website for more articles like this: have no business dating let alone being in any sort of "serious" relationship when in school.If a kid cannot figure how to handle their "feelings" with their friends then they certainly will not gain anything with a boyfriend/girlfriend.....woman who wrote the letter needs to stop thinking in terms of "late" bloomers especially when she mentioned her husband and dating. There are plenty of people who didn't date until they were in their late twenties or thirties. I wasn't allowed to date until I was 18 because I had very strict parents.